Adoption, what's it all about anyway?

It's a Tuesday afternoon, the perfect time to start a blog don't you think? I'm not quite sure I'm clued into this whole blog thing but I have a lot to say and probably not enough for a book so I'll start here and just go.

It's been an interesting day to say the least. I had a wonderful friend email me last night. I am a lucky girl. He emailed me to tell me he had been contacted by an "agency" in Great Britian. Turns out his "birth mother" is looking for him. Hmm. 

I've been mulling it over in my head all day. It's still such a taboo subject but yet it's as common as getting married! Think about it this way, if it weren't for teenage girls and young women becoming pregnant before they were married, how many happy family's wouldn't be as happy as they are now because of a young girl who couldn't raise her baby on her own. Sure, those of you who have never been through the ordeal can snicker and talk about others being promiscuous or a "bad" girl but remember, those who live in glass houses should never through stones.

Adoption conjures up so many different feelings to so many different people. I can think of 5 people instantly, who have been affected by adoption in some way. Imagine if I gave it some heavy duty thinking ~ it's probably affected more people then you and I think.

It comes with sad memories for some, the young unmarried mother, the couple who have gone through the heart ache of miscarriage, unsuccessful fertility treatments and the pain of seeing others with their new born babies. But put the sad memories aside, think of the happiness it brings to lives. Suddenly, there's a family where it used to be two. As the years move on, so does the pain - at least for the new family.

I wonder does anyone ever stop to think of the pain of the young girl who suddenly finds herself in her 30's or 40's with an empty spot in her heart? Who really cares about her feelings now? Sure, some will say "it's her own fault, she gave her baby away, she deserves never to know." Does anyone ever stop to think that this may have been a selfless act, giving a part of her away so another couple, a woman, or a man can raise the child she created and gave life? I wonder how many young mothers didn't end up on welfare because she chose adoption and was able to finish her education and go on to become a successful member of society, with the hopes that the tiny son or daughter she gave up as her own went on to the same successes in their lives.